According to a small study done with some 70 college students, breaking up, although surely not a very pleasant experience and period that comes after that, isn't all that hard really. Students were surveyed periodically about the status of their relationships, whether they felt good or bad about it, and were asked to express the level of stress at that point in time. After about six months 26 students reported their relationships ended, and it turned out it took about 10 weeks for them to recover emotionally.

It turns out that not only does life spring back to pre-breakup mode almost twice as fast as people actually expect, but also that the initial split is easier than most people perceive it to be. There are several heartbreak helpers, counter measures if you will, that spring up into action after the break up, that at the time are not something people are aware of. For example, some people unconsciously concentrate on their ex's bad habits or characteristics, which indirectly makes it easier to move on.

So basically, if that time is coming for you, and you decide to end your intimate relationship with the other person, know that it will probably be easier to cope with the break up than it seems. Or so the statistics say…

[Via: MSNBC]

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Amy Owens, a counselor and singles coach, decided to address this issue after she listened to a morning radio show called "Losers Club." People who were single would call in and explain why they were losers in the dating scene.

She was single swell at that time, so she could empathize with the callers. She felt that by claiming they were losers these people were not even close to resolving their problems; she felt they were more undisciplined and uninformed than actually losers.

According to Owens most singles are undisciplined; they will go ahead with a relationship even if they know it's not right from the start. Most people know the rules of dating and who they want to date but they break them anyway. They will listen to friends and family even if their common sense tells them not to.

She says a smart single person will turn to therapy or counseling when they realize they are in a rut. But most people just bury themselves in work, or other activities, and avoid addressing their problems. Many singles are just waiting for "the one" to find them, not expecting to do work on themselves in the meanwhile.

The ones who truly pull themselves out of the "loser" rut are those who realize they need to change. Taking a few steps toward the positive can really turn a person's luck around. It is choices you make today that make you a winner tomorrow.

[Via: Noblesville Daily Time]

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Many women nowadays are prepared to put down as much as $9,000 to get themselves a dating coach. Glamour magazine is offering free tips from the experts themselves without the expert costs.

The first piece of advice is to breathe and smile, which means you should just enjoy your date, and leave your expectations for later. Being positive is also a must, even when you are putting together an online profile, because this will help you see everything in a positive light. Try to get some positive criticism from your friends, ask them how you act, and try to polish up the things that aren't up to par. You have to be prepared to make love happen, the only way to get a date is to get out on the market.

The way you think can also affect the way your date will see you. People who are positive and friendly are seen as being more attractive than those with a negative attitude.

Also, according to Men's Health magazine, men with wives have better lives. They are less likely to give into nasty vices. Married men get more and faster promotions. On the other hand, men who have been victims of violent crimes are much more likely to stay single.

So, most men are in need of a woman, and if you follow these tips, the right guy is just a breath and smile away.

[Via: TheNewsTribune]

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Here's an interesting article on Times Online, which goes into the topic of how to choose your online dating name. Believe it or not, there is actually a way to screw this important step up. For example, online dating names such as fun2bwith or i’msweet actually get a lot of attention.

“These names suggest an outgoing or fun nature, or clarify the user’s positive physical appearance,” said Dr Monica Whitty, a lecturer in cyber-psychology at Nottingham Trent University and co-author of the research paper.

“Less flirtatious names may be more appealing to women because they are wary of men who might be using the site to find one-night stands rather than long-term relationships,” Dr Whitty said.

Online dating is already a huge phenomenon at the moment, so users would really benefit from understanding how something as simple as an online dating name could increase their chance of finding a potential partner significantly.

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